This is a question and rightfully so!
The answer however is not as easily produced. If I am bringing my life should you not only bring you life. And by you life, I am not talking what you want me to know! How about what you don’t want me to know…you were wild in college, you are bad with money and time, you don’t like tomatoes and you just don’t want anymore kids. Why not just be up front…..oh you like this person and don’t want to be alone well how about you find someone else to like that wants similar things. That way low and behold you can get rid of surprise conflict, whether it surprise you or not is irrelevant. If you were the one withholding info until the last minute then that is unfair to the other person. If you know she wants children, a dog and etc and you don’t then it is now time to let this one go…no matter how wonderful it is you are not operating on the same basis.
STOP PRETENDING! SAVE YOURSELF!